In her third Blog, Clare Sandman, trained in Psychotherapy, continues her advice on how you can manage your own Mental Health, at home and at work.

Since we last chatted, the lockdown has started to lift gradually, we are noticing Spring arriving and the longer light evenings coming towards us. It feels warm doesn’t it but how are we really feeling about the year ahead?

I know for me, lockdown number three was particularly challenging; a lack of daylight and warm sunshine, lack of seeing friends, lack of variety, watching friends being furloughed again, kids homeschooling and working non-stop it felt at times, both in my HR consultancy role and my new role of Counselling Support for businesses.  So many emotions to deal with.  How do we cope with all of these emotions without ongoing support for ourselves, are we really looking after our minds?

I do. Every week I have personal 1-1 therapy, discussing the week, the impacts, the highs and the lows, normalising my mental health and giving my head a routine.  Ensuring we stay healthy in our minds is important.


Counselling Support for BusinessesIn both of my work roles, the word ‘Boundaries’ keeps coming out to play.  It started to make me think more and more, have you set firm boundaries between your home life and work life?  How do you even set boundaries when your work life is sitting in your home life, in the same environment, same room and with the same people around you constantly.  How many of you feel trapped by work, isolated at home and wondering whether it was just you who felt the enormity of being and feeling stuck in the same work or home space.  Was it or is it still Groundhog Day?  How do we help your mind stop, think, breathe and reflect on its current state in a safe environment.


  • Boundaries enable you to set guidelines on how you want to be treated.  Ensuring your relationships with people are respectful and appropriate, whether at work or at home.  Have you grounded yourself and enabled yourself to firmly say ‘yes or no’ to certain challenges recently?
  • Boundaries enable you to maintain self-care and self-maintenance.  Have you done something just for you today and do you have a plan for the coming months?
  • Boundaries enable you to tune into your feelings and give yourself permission to feel the way you want to.  How often have you done this recently?  Do you need help?
  • Boundaries enable you to identify what you can tolerate and
    what you need to ‘kick out’ the way or back over the boundary wall.  What makes you uncomfortable and why? Have you really sat and thought about what makes you feel anxious or stressed every day?  Hold those thoughts, really feel them and decide what you do next with them and reflect.
  • Boundaries lead to empowerment.  Embrace your boundaries and start to feel you are leading the life you want to live, breathe and enjoy.


If you need professional support, for you or your team, SYLO |Beyond HR offers a confidential Counselling service.  Contact us on: 01844 216290 or and we can provide the options that are right for you and your employees.